Love Languages

"Oh what's your love language?" ... well WHY would you try to put me in a box like that? Confine me to just one? Do NOT put me in a box. While I do have a favourite, I love all of them. Giving and receiving and I actually have more than the original five. That's how full of love I am.

Words of Affirmation

Admittedly this may be my least favourite because compliments usually hit against me like a wall. Like oil and water. They are not absorbed into my psyche. Maybe if someone says I smell nice I believe that but not any physical compliments. I would imagine, however, words of affirmation from a trusted partner would be quite nice. More along the lines of noticing and remembering small things about me and soothing me. Verbally soothing me when i'm anxious or whateva sounds REEAAAAAL nice. As for giving, I am too shy for words of that nature to float along my breath but I do think them.

Acts of Service

I heavily romanticise this one. Like the idea of... cooking a delicious meal for a guy... it so exciting, I wanna do it, I only hope I could make a meal worthy enough for my hypothetical romantic interest. Cleaning... not too into it but I would try. I would generally just be ecstatic to run errands. Especially grocery shopping and we all know why. This obviously goes the same the other way around but do not EVER grocery shop for me, I would be PISSED.

Gift Giving

Gift giving is really all about the intentions behind it. Like obviously I wouldn't give a gaf if I was gifted like a rock. Unless said rock had some qualities that reminded my hypothetical romantic interest of me. And he explained that to me so then I would find it really sweet. But continuing, like if I were to receive a plushie of a character from a media franchise I love it would be splendid. I LOVE plushies and I have like eight next to my bed. Giving gifts... the idea is very nerve-racking. Like what if I get the wrong thing and it makes it seem like I don't care and I don't pay attention? Soul-crushing. I would have to stick with things that I KNOW would be enjoyed.

Quality Time

Although the word quality in quality time refers to focused and uninterrupted interaction, I would shave it off to just time. Because the mere presence of a close one improves mood and enjoyability of whatever action is being enacted. Like truly, with the friend group, we could all be sitting in a circle silent not talking at all and I would enjoy it because we're all there and friends. Would do anything with people.

Physical Touch

Physical touch is my favourite one, even though I dislike most physical touch. And that is because you need to be close with me for me to tolerate touch with you. Like tolerating your touch is a feat with me. Most of the time, do not touch me. So if I not only tolerate but enjoy and welcome someone's touch it is a great sign. I'm also probably more receptive to physical touch when I'm drunk and like that's just cause I'm a better person when I'm intoxicated and love everyone.

Another thing I love love love love love is when I am mentioned. Like the love language of memory. I guess something weird about me is I assume others do not have object permanence regarding me. Like I assume out of sight out of mind and I am just forgotten when my presence is not around. So it feels amazing when someone remembers I exist and expresses it, usually vocally. That's why I always say "Me mention!!!" enthusiastically.

Note: These images were all supposed to be gifs but I cannot be bothered fixing it.